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Marching Onwards

"It doesn't matter what you say about somebody once they're gone. What matters is how you treat them when they're still here."  - David Silver, Beverly Hills 90210 On this day in March 2024 I came home from a month-long hospital stay where I had been treated for newly-diagnosed metastatic breast cancer. That month was also the twelve-year anniversary of my original cancer diagnosis.  Two weeks later, following a failed attempt at targeted therapy, I was discharged from oncology care and told "I'm sorry but there is nothing more we can do". I was signed over to a team of palliative care doctors and given weeks to two months to live.  That was two years ago.  I'm sure you, dearest of readers, have guessed the moral of the story: Don't believe everything you are told when it comes to your health. Take it at face value and appreciate that it was based on the best available information at the time. But remember that you are in the driver's sea...
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How Does YOUR Garden Grow?

How does YOUR garden grow? Mine grows with Rachel Gill! Rachel was my youngest's preschool photographer. I met her 9 years ago, and after seeing her wonderful photography, decided to hire her for some candids and portraits of all of my kids, then 3, 7 and 9. The result was so much more than a beautiful collection of photos; we created memories of a fun-filled late afternoon jaunt through some fields to get to a barn, as we tried in vain to get Imogen to laugh. Rachel suggested I dance cartwheels behind her as she snapped away and it worked like a charm -  the resulting photos are some of the best I've ever seen of my kids, or any kids for that matter! She really is a gifted photographer.  I  later learned that Rachel's photography business was not her primary talent; she was in fact a gardener by trade, and a very passionate proponent and educator on sustainability and on growing your own food. When she said she was a fellow nature lover I knew I had found a kindred ...

HIP HIP Hooray!

Yesterday's treatment marks twelve under my belt in as many months; 24 injections in total, administered two at a time, in unison, by two nurses. What the actual Hello Kitty? Did a year of mBC treatments really just fly by? Some of you have asked me to describe what these treatments are like compared to the active treatment (chemo/surgery/radiation) I endured during my first go with this disease. To this I say, you cannot compare the two. They are two distinct courses of action based on two very different diagnoses. But the common denominators have been to prolong my life and maintain my quality of life by managing both my cancer and treatment-induced symptoms and side effects. To this end, they have both times been extraordinarily successful. So what does my monthly treatment entail exactly? Well, it's no more exciting than a routine vaccination I'm afraid, except it involves a return to the Cancer Centre (which I honestly don't mind doing, oddly). Perhaps less desira...

World Cancer Day 2025

Today on World Cancer Day I am trying out a video message in hopes of sending a more personal message your way. Enjoy, my friends, and stay connected. Ellen

A Toast to 2024!

Well hello there, 2025, so wonderful to make your acquaintance! I look forward to experiencing all that you may bring my way and more 😀. But first... While this week's buzz is heavy on the, "out with the old, in with the new," I unapologetically feel that my 2024 needs its proper adieu, so I am going to make space and honour her departure. I hope you will join me as I hop aboard my little metaphorical riverboat for a brief but meaningful séjour down the farewell 2024 riviera. Then we can move on to the champagne-bottle-smashing inauguration of 2025`s brand new cruise ship, complete with shiny shuffleboard decks (not just for old people!), infinity swimming pools (do you have to keep swimming in them forevermore?) and multiplex cinemas (how DOES one watch more than one film at a time....impressive!). I am making all of this stuff up btw, I have never even set foot on a cruise ship. Blame my Epi Friends, they have forever schooled me on the multiple reasons to limit cruise...

Rage Against the (Christmas) Machine

It's Christmas Eve! Well it was when I wrote this post. It really doesn’t bother me that I didn’t get to publish it yesterday as soon as my last sentence was typed. It is also no skin off my wrinkly nose that I was only able to do one very quick edit at 11:55 p.m., thereby ensuring this message would not reach you on Christmas Eve, given that it wasn’t travelling on Santa’s sleigh. Not.a.problem. My message is out now, and you are reading it, and that is all that matters in the end, right? So here it is, my Christmas message to you.  Note: While it is unarguably Christmas-related, it has been, as with all of my writings, scripted with every human, animal, spirit and holder of space in mind, so applicable to all. I just have a bone to pick with Christmas and it’s been simmering into the perfect storm of a broth for years…so get ready for a tasty yet powerful punch!  Let’s restart… It's Christmas Day! I am sending so much love and light to all of you, my family, friends and once...

The Time is Write

On Sunday I attended a Fireside Teaching and Healing Workshop with Jenny (Sâwanohk) Sutherland. Jenny is the visionary and owner of the Misiwe Ni Relations Healing Lodge , an Indigenous Healer, and a registered psychotherapist. During our workshop she took our small circle of four through a smudging ceremony and a fireside chat on how being in the winter season and especially the stress of December's expectations depletes our energy and increases our anxiety. Sunday's session was all about restoring our energy through the power of connectedness, intention and a guided journey which left me filled with euphoria and peace, not to mention, more energy than I've felt in many moons! Two lasting pieces of wisdom stood out from our morning together: First, we all come from water and we must constantly work to replenish it. This is more than the futile promise I've made to myself all these years, "I really need to drink more water". No, I need to actually DO it, not j...