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All About Ellen

By Nikita

Ellen is a single mother of three wondrous adolescents. At the age of 39, two weeks after the birth of her third child, she was diagnosed with invasive lobular carcinoma of the left breast with axillary metastasis. She spent a very full year of parental leave undergoing chemotherapy, mastectomy with axillary node dissection, and radiation therapy, followed by a decade of endocrine therapy. Her favourite pastimes include:

 (1) doting over her children
(2) blasting unknowing bloggers with puns, and
(3) kicking cancer to the curb, then swiftly backing over it with a dump truck 

This blog initially chronicled her experience in being diagnosed and treated for Stage III breast cancer immediately following child birth in 2012, or as she liked to refer to it, from kegels to chemo and beyond. Chapter two began in 2024 and explores her insights and experience living with metastatic (Stage IV) breast cancer.

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